Mend It Better ~ Review & Giveaway

It seems proper that I am reviewing Mend It Better: Creative Patching, Darning, and Stitching by Kristin Roach, after returning from a week-long heart-mending adventure
in Death Valley.

Kristin asked me to contribute to this book after seeing my post on  The Unpredictable Geography of Mending. I was very pleased that they included my article and tutorial, particularly because my focus was on the spiritual aspect of “Mending As Devotion.” Here’s a taste of what I wrote:

I believe in creatively mending clothing because it connects me to a deeper desire to care for, repair, and tend to the worn-out places within myself and in my relationships with others. Mending for me is an act of devotion that nourishes my sense of personal agency.


With 223 pages Mend It Better explodes with historical, practical, technical information and creative inspiration for darning, seam fixes, hems, waistlines, zippers, patchwork and decorative accents. It has a soft, inviting, cozy feel to it. It’s a very approachable and comprehensive guide for taking care of your clothes. Ultimately it is a book about love and empowerment.  Kristin writes:

Mending can be technical, but it cal also bring new life to old clothing. A creative bit of stitching and reshaping can make a dress that was banished to the back of the closet shine again… I have included all the information and instructions you need to repair your clothing and the clothing of those you love.

This book is a beautiful and thoughtful publication by Storey Publishing, visit the Mend It Better website for more sneak previews!


Want to win a copy of Mend It Better? To enter, comment on this post with your most imaginative, or practical tip on how to mend a broken heart! Comments will stay open through March 31.


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26 Responses to Mend It Better ~ Review & Giveaway

  1. Evonne says:

    Hi Sherrie, know that you are surrounded by the love of your friends around you and in blog land, rely on them and hope you feel buoyed by their support and good wishes during this time! Rediscover yourself anew. Who are you? By yourself? Without this person in your life? We tend to focus on what we lack rather than on what is there and has always been there all along. You are strong, beautiful, have wonderful skills and talents and interests. You have been given much and have a lot to contribute! Go on “dates” with yourself! Do the things you enjoy! Craft, sew, take yourself to coffee, go jogging or any physical activity, enjoy the new growth of the plants during this springtime … Spring is when all those things that were hibernating wake up, come to life and are celebrated, as if for the first time. Hope you experience spring time and Easter in your personal, emotional, psychological and spiritual life too!

    On a separate note, thanks for sharing your life and thoughts here on your blog. I really enjoy your spiritual reflections that seem to be so integrated in your crafting process. Your example has helped me think about how I can use my crafting time as an opportunity for reflection and growth. You are loved and appreciated.

  2. Brenda says:

    I think you need to follow the fine example you set for us in mending your shirt. make something creative with the patch for your heart, and don’t apologize that it is visible. if that fails, I’d vote for chocolate. ;)

  3. Gill says:

    Time is a great healer, also laughter but some hurts are just too deep to mend

  4. Sandy says:

    Broken hearts, we have all been there, some, more than others. I even have the t-shirt(s)!!!! For me, laughter was the best medicine, ok, throwing darts at his picture helped, lots and lots of darts. I also made sure I didn’t take blame for his stupidity and lack of class. The other thing that made me smile, Jo Dee Messina’s song “Lesson in Leavin” My favorite line in the song: “Someday somebody’s goin a give you a lesson in leavin and I hope that I’m around, to watch them knock you down” If you have never heard it check this link out.
    Well, I sure hope that puts a smile on your face, and always remember, we have all been there and we all made it through. Thanks so much for being brave enough to share and allowing to share back.

  5. Cricket says:

    How to mend a broken heart: the surrounding love and affection of friendships, the continuing beauty of sunrises and sunsets, deep breathing on long bicycle rides, humor – alone and in crowds for belly laughs, prayers of hope or confusion or frustration, lots of time, a dose of courage, a new haircut.

  6. shannon says:

    welcome back sherri! :) and what a fitting post and review.

    ah, how to mend a broken heart. for me, it has worked to just cry (and cry and cry, and punch my pillow and throw a couple things around the room and rip stuff up–ha!) and allow myself to feel, and work through the sadness and anger (not deny it, or think of it as a sign of weakness). i would remind myself that there was a time that i was happy without the person in my life, and that if it was like that once, i will eventually get to that happy place again. i honored my feelings, and then at a certain point, i would just get tired of being sad and spending energy on the past and would just work on things that made me happy in the present. prayer also helped. i’d throw out to the universe that i obviously didn’t have true happiness (though it seemed to feel so good), so please help me understand, feel, know true happiness. and i’d ask for messages from the universe to be pretty blaring since i seemed to be kind of dense with subtle signs. ha! it has never failed.

  7. Chris Moon says:

    Such good advice above!

    When I am in pain, I like to focus on the pain and send all my loving energy toward the pain. Acknowledge it, give it space to exist, then love it for what it is. It seems to help.

    There will be a time when you can step back, be mindful of the memory, then let it go. I don’t know that you’ll ever be grateful for the experience because of the association of pain with it, but acknowledging all the good and bad, allowing it to exist then releasing it may help.

    All the best – and my prayers for your healing.

  8. Janet says:

    Time heals all wounds, even a broken heart. But sometimes it takes a very long time.

  9. Beth T. says:

    Well, here’s a thought. Anytime you start to wander down the road of, this is how it could have been…(and envision the house, the children, whatever), tell yourself the honest truth: No, this is how it would have been and acknowledge whatever hard truths you’ve discovered about the relationship (picturing instead always wishing your partner would share, always wondering what he was holding back, why he didn’t enjoy the kids’s birthday parties, whatever). You deserve the truth, from yourself and others. And it makes it less tempting to engage in that particular form of what if.

  10. Amanda Perl says:

    Connect with other human beings, without agenda. Go see a movie with your sister, take some soup to your grandmother, volunteer in your community. If that’s not right for you, connect with life some other way. Plant a garden, pet an animal, watch a water strider at the park, stare at the sky wherever you can see it.

  11. Gwen says:

    It’s really amazing how much advice there is on healing a broken heart. I guess a lot of people have been there.

  12. Heather says:

    Try a few heart opening yoga poses, focusing on breathing gentle loving energy into your wide open heart. If that feels too emotionally vulnerable, maybe forward bends can help protect your heart. Let your spirit lead your body, and mend the mind.

  13. Roland says:

    Great post, Sherri. Your stitching is lovely. I find that repairing/mending things is spiritually satisfying in an almost obverse way to buying new things, which often seems spiritually vacant (viz. “buyer’s remorse”). Thrift is a timeless virtue too often ridiculed.

  14. Feli says:

    I think it is wise to still be thankful for the love, the joy, the devotion, the passion, the phantasies, the state of mind you were in while you were in love with the one who broke your heart. Nobody can take that away from you.
    It’s your former boyfriend’s karma to have finished the relationship and perhaps he didn’t tell you the real reasons why he left you. You don’t know anyway if this love would have survived the daily routine that follows after the intoxication of the brain in the first year of love.
    To my opinion good and close friends who listen to the seemingly never ending thoughts and doubts that dominate your mind are the best remedy.
    And……..time is really a healer!
    Take care!
    Greetings from Germany

  15. patty says:

    How to mend a broken heart? That is a tough one. Just don’t do what I did and that was to punish myself. I quit exercising and ate. At the time I had the best size 8 body I ever had in my whole life thru diet and exercise. Years later I am a paunchy, out of shape person and I gain nothing except weight from punishing myself. Try to find someone who will just listen – just a sympathic ear until all of this passes.

  16. The book looks wonderful, congrats to being in there. love your mending. but mending a broken heart? don’t think there is such a cure. just has to be endured. but I did listen to Melissa Etheridge’s self-titled album a WHOLE bunch way back when. well wishes.

  17. Mary P says:

    Mending a broken heart—for me, lots of sunshine and long walks. Plus lots of fun girl time with friends.

  18. Martha says:

    Don’t avoid the damage…stare it right in the face and really get to know it…what part is really your stuff…own it…and then take away the strength you get from doing that…be brave…

  19. blandina says:

    I do love your mending and your words, it is only reading your blog that I took the courage to try some creative mending myself (have you seen my butterflies?).
    A broken heart is a broken heart, but finding a new boyfriend helps (I know that this is a shallow comment, but it is true that when one door closes…).

  20. Take a bath in milk and pink rose petals. Play triumphant music, cry, sing, laugh. Time heals everything. Plant flowers and watch the seeds come up and the flowers bloom.


  21. Gwen says:

    Deanna’s comments are clear and I love her references to needlework. Just keep acknowledging your wholeness, Sherri dear, and how dear you are to our divine Creator.

    Love that mended blue and white striped shirt. Somehow it looks familiar to me.

  22. marthaeliza says:

    After gleaning all the wisdom I could at the time, I started redirecting my thoughts when my mind would turn to the beloved (which was approximately always). I actually made a list of things I wanted to think about! I would carefully plan imaginary trips, try to plan a garden, construct the perfect dress in my mind, design a sweater. I would do each of these in excrutiating detail, all the while trying to breathe mindfully. Distract, redirect, distract, redirect, over and over. Especially at 2am. For me, a broken heart helped me to more tender towards others — as the song says: “there’s more room in a broken heart.” Bon chance, bonne courage.

  23. Beth says:

    Regarding hearts, don’t do like I have done, that is wallow in it. Better to make the damage an asset — both with one’s clothing & with one’s heart. Time & supportive friends & time are what will see you through.

  24. Deanna says:

    Broken hearts are tough to mend. There is usually a lot of fraying of confidence. Interfacing (with other people) tends to build up the fabric and give you something strong to work with as you try to stitch things back together. It is slow going. But possible.

  25. Tricia C. says:

    The way I dealt with a broken heart was to immerse myself in Janet Evanovich’s Stephanie Plum novels. I started at the beginning and worked my way through the entire series. Laughing out loud was the last thing I felt like doing but do it I did. I also was really gentle with myself and gave myself permission to be sad.

  26. Fran says:

    Unfortunately the only thing that mends a broken heart is time (in my experience) but staying positive & busy are the things that help you get there, I think. It also helps to have the support & company of loving family & friends.

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